Everything with the ”Christian” prefix is not necessarily suitable for a child of God. Most people who profess to be Christians are also not necessarily good company. The scripture often used by churches to compel believers into attending church assumes that those who go to church are children of God. It is written in Hebrews10:23-25 “Let us hold fast the confession of our hope without wavering, for He who promised is faithful; 24and let us consider how to stimulate one another to love and good deeds, 25not forsaking our own assembling together, as is the habit of some, but encouraging one another; and all the more as you see the day drawing near.” Very few church goers are serious about following Jesus. Most church goers can only talk about their church and pastor, some talk about the Bible, but most cannot talk about Jesus, because they do not know Him. You will be hard pressed to find anyone who is serious about following Jesus in a church.
Most of those who seriously follow Jesus have little time for fellowship with others because they are in fellowship with Jesus. If you want to be close to Jesus you need to stay focused on Him during your day while going about your daily tasks and you have to set aside time to pray and listen to Him. You cannot afford to waste time watching TV, videos, movies, playing video games, playing around on social media, listening to the news, reading novels, practicing hobbies, sports, senseless entertainment, texting and endless telephone conversations. You do not acquire the mind of Christ if you are busy with other things. That is also why I avoid telephone calls and rather reply to emails. Your day can easily be consumed by telephone calls. We must be tuned in and available for Jesus. If we are occupied with other things we cannot serve Him and respond to Him.
Members of the opposite sex should also not get involved in counseling. Private one-on-one counseling with the opposite sex is dangerous. Never open the door to temptation. Many children of God have been destroyed.
You do not get closer to Jesus through fellowship with other Christians. You will rather get drawn away from Jesus. You only get closer to Jesus through fellowship with Him. If we seek Jesus, we find Him. If we draw closer to Him, He will draw closer to us. We only become like Jesus through fellowship with Him. We build our fellowship with Jesus through prayer, spending time alone praying, speaking to Jesus from our heart, in our own words. We get in tune with Him if we read His words, the words that He spoke and commanded, the red letter words in some Bibles, in Matthew, Mark, Luke and John, pondering those words, having them in our mind, obeying them and living in obedience to them. If we obey Jesus, repent of sin, are baptized in water, stop sinning, live holy and seek Him in prayer He will come and dwell in us, in our spirit. He will give of His Spirit, the Holy Spirit, in us to teach and guide us. We must hunger and thirst for Him and He will satisfy us with constant awareness of His presence. He will disclose Himself to us and reveal things to us about Him, the kingdom of heaven, about the future. He will teach us all things. That is His promise to those who seek His fellowship and obey Him. We will only know the mind of Christ, His plan for us if we live in close fellowship with Him. We can only be fruitful for His kingdom if we remain in Him, in fellowship with Him.
Many Christian believers have fellowship with other believers but they have no fellowship with Jesus. Jesus warned that He will say to many Christians: “Go away I never knew you, you workers of lawlessness.”
Do not allow fellowship with other believers to distract you from Jesus. The only fellowship that we need is with Jesus, because it is only when we are in fellowship with Him that we can bear fruit for His kingdom and be pleasing to Him. Use your time wisely, have fellowship with Jesus and build your relationship with Him. Follow Him, every day, until the end and you will have life.
May Jesus bless you.