Jesus said that the branch in Him that does not bear good fruit will get cut off (John 15). If we do not remain IN Him we cannot bear good fruit. Jesus said:”Without ME you can do nothing.” Our actions and our reactions to how other people treat us or to things that happen to us in life, are determined by our relationship with Jesus. If we are close to Him and we receive our guidance from Him then we will react in the way that He directs us to react.
If we react according to our feelings, or our natural desires then we react according to the flesh and we cannot please Jesus and then our fruit will be bad. Our reactions depend on our closeness with Jesus. In all situations we need to pray and let the Holy Spirit determine our reactions. Then we will bear good fruit and DO what is pleasing to Him. It all depends on our relationship with Him, how close we are with Him.
Do we react according to our feelings, or do we say:”Lord, How would You want me to react in this situation?” Those who are led by the Spirit of God, they are the sons of God (Romans 8:14). We need to control ourselves, control the flesh, submit to Jesus and react in the way that He shows us to react. We must DO what is pleasing to Him and then we will bear good fruit. It all depends on our relationship with Him.
How close are we with Jesus? Do we constantly seek Him? Are we constantly aware of Him and are we in everything seeking to be pleasing to Him? If we follow Jesus we no longer please ourselves or protect ourselves, preserve ourselves, but in all things we seek to be pleasing to Jesus alone.
May Jesus bless you.